Just Say NO to the Mom Jeans!

By Kristen K. Brown

“I only wanna wear a dress and dancing shoes!”  These are common words from my 2.5 year old every day before school.  As I slip on my elastic-waist mesh shorts and perfectly worn in men’s’ gray Hanes t-shirt, my work-from-home uniform, I wonder if I’m doing myself justice by wearing comfortable clothes instead of fashionable ones.  And if I were to elevate my style to be trendier, even at home where only the dog sees me, would it also elevate my self-confidence and happiness?

Andy Warhol said, “Everything in your closet should have an expiration date on it, the way milk and bread do.”  But what is the timeframe before it’s time to purge the old to make room for the new?  One year?  Five years?  Has the oversized, purple tennis t-shirt I wore fifteen years ago in high school expired?  What about the tight, satin dress I wore for New Year’s Eve eight years ago?  (Not like it fits.)  I have recently made a pact with myself to stay at least somewhat current in my fashion choices.  I don’t want to spiral downward into the mom-jeans and tucked in button-down clothing trap.  I’ve seen it happen – former fashionistas get married and have kids and suddenly they’re wearing frumpy active wear or pleated jeans in place of the stylish garb that now hangs in the back of their closets.  I am determined not to let this happen.  I don’t want to look back in five or ten years and still be wearing the same things I’m wearing now.  So every six or eight weeks I do a closet purge.  I take a good, hard look at what is in there and if I haven’t worn something during the current season, it goes in the charity donation pile.  At first, it was hard to get rid of so many things I had spent good money on – but that was precisely my problem.  I would buy things on sale but I didn’t really love them.  And if things are on sale, it often means the style is on the way out to make room for the new stuff.  So now, I avoid accumulation for the sake of a good deal and only buy what I really love that makes me look and feel fabulous.

We should also take care of our inner self the same way we should take pride in our appearance.  We should purge our brains of thoughts that plague us and eat up our energy.  We can do this by getting our lives organized, whittling down our to-do lists and just letting go of the little things.  This will leave more time for appreciating what we have, enjoying our time with family and friends and indulging in our favorite activities and hobbies.

With this balance of inner and outer functioning, we can carry ourselves more confidently in the world knowing we are at the top of our game.  And remember, when you look good you feel good – and when you feel good you look good.

Kristen Brown


Kristen Brown is a widow mom and the founder of WidowMommy.com, an author, entrepreneur, radio host and speaker. Learn more about her and her companies at www.KristenKBrown.com.


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